Multiple IVF failure is devastating, but it does not mean that you will never get to carry your baby in your arms. IVF can be a very stressful heartbreaking journey, even when you only have to go through one or two of them. But going through 4, 5, 6…. attempts is more than any one couple should have to endure. Back when we were still trying for our first miracle I would read people’s success stories and think that they did not apply to me. It came too easy for them, as if going through a few IUI’s and a couple of IVF’s were easy . Nothing really gave me hope. We had been through 4 fresh IVF cycles and one FET. With three pregnancies and no baby to show for it!!! I am a very optimistic person, and I always believed God would allow us to be parents. But at this point even I was doubting that it would ever happen for us. On our 6th attempt, second FET, we finally got pregnant and stayed pregnant! Our little miracle is almost 2 now, and we are about to try for another. Just because you have experienced multiple IVF failure, does not mean you should give up!!! It can happen for you, just like it happened for us.
1. Why do some patients suffer through multiple IVF failures? Each patient is different. In our case the problem was not getting pregnant, but staying pregnant. We could not afford to do PGD, since we were paying out of pocket, but our issue was likely poor quality embryos. The good news is, even if you do produce poor quality embryos, it only takes one good embryo to make a baby!!!! Since people going through IVF sometimes have egg or sperm issues (or both) it is not suprising that they sometimes yield poor quality embryos. Many patients will never have an expanation for their failed IVF attempts.
2. What should I do to change the outcome? Do not be afraid to demand something different from your RE. If your IVF attempts continue to fail, the RE should be making changes to your protocol. This may mean doing more testing on the patients, changing the amount of stimulation drugs (usually for patients who do not yield many eggs), adding ICSI and/or assisted hatching, adding PGD (for patients whose embryo quality is questionable), adding lovenox (blood thinner / typically used for patients who have suffered multiple miscarriages), etc. Don’t allow your RE to continue trying the same thing, and expect different results. If you are not happy with the efforts that your RE is making to change the outcome, then it may be time for a second opinion. I have heard of so many women who were not seeing results with one clinic, changed clinics, and had a baby almost right away. For more ways to improve your IVF chances please visit IVF Success Program.
If you are wondering what we did differently to change our outcome…… we went on lovenox. This is the only single factor that was different in the cycle that gave us our little boy. I was never diagnosed with a clotting disorder, was never even tested actually, but the RE just decided it couldn’t hurt to try it. The RE still does not believe that the lovenox made the difference, but I know I will never cycle again without it!!
If you would like to read our full story… please visit Our IVF Success Story. I’m so sorry for all the people having to go through multiple IVF failure, there are people out here who understand, don’t give up!!!!