Mother’s Day and Infertility

Going through yet another Mother’s Day without a baby, can be very challenging.  I am so blessed to be celebrating mother’s day as a mom of a 2 year old.  But there were many years that went by where we were trying to have a baby, using all means possible, with no luck.  We really felt like we may never get to experience what it feels like to be parents.  I was always pretty strong and really believed that one day God would bless us with a child, but I can remember Mother’s Day feeling particularly cruel. 

People at the store would say “Happy Mother’s Day” to you…even though there was no baby in sight.  I know they did not mean anything by it….they just did not understand that they were reminding you that yet another Mother’s Day was coming and going without you being a part of it.  It is ok to have these feelings, just know that you too will have your time.  Even though it is so hard to understand why that time is not now.  Now that we have my little boy I look back and see that it was all worth it in the end.  Keep trying….don’t give up! 

I saw this peom on a forum not to long ago and decided to save it and share it with y’all.  Wish I could say who wrote it (wasn’t me :) ), but I am not sure.  Hope you enjoy it!!!  I found it to be so true for all infertile “moms”.  Good luck with your infertility journey, hope your Mother’s Day is soon!!!

“Happy Mother’s Day”
It comes around every year;
but when you have empty arms,
it’s very hard to hear.
It’s a day to celebrate a mother,
for all the trials she overcame;
and a reminder to an infertile
of her loneliness and shame.
But what really makes a mother,
Is it just conception and birth?
Or is there something more,
that shows a mother’s worth?
It’s putting your child first,
in everything you do;
it’s sacrifice and determination,
and love and patience too.
An infertile woman makes all her plans,
around a child not yet conceived;
she loves them even though they aren’t here,
more than she ever could have believed.
She appreciates and understands,
what a blessing that children are;
she works hard for just a chance,
that motherhood is not that far.
All odds are stacked against her,
and yet she still has hope;
everyday is another struggle,
finding ways to help her cope.
 So even though her arms are empty,
she can still be a mother too;
So say a special“Happy Mother’s Day”
for those waiting for their dreams to come true!
 

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Comments

Mother’s Day and Infertility — 2 Comments

  1. Thank you so very much for your encouragment, my second ivf process started this month l hope and believe in God for His marcy.

    • Your welcome! Glad to be able to help people whenever I can. Good luck with your IVF…. a lot of times the 2nd IVF has better odds, because the doc has learned how your body will react. The first one is almost like a trial run that you are just hoping will be lucky! Hope you will come back and share good news soon.

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